Trading Places

 Story time with Lezita!!!!

This past week I had an eye opening experience.  For a split second, I felt what single men (or some women) feel while courting, and my life has never been the same. 

My one and only nephew was leaving for the military and I wanted to celebrate and spend some quality time with him before he moved away.  If I'm being transparent, I mainly just wanted to give him a few words of encouragement and remind him that condoms are NOT just a cute wallet accessory...they are to be USED.  Anywho, I suggested we go to dinner to hang out.

I invited him out a couple of days before my direct deposit dropped, so in my mind we were going to go to Taco Tuesday or just have $.50 cent wings ( before you go judging, I'm on a budget and I am not ashamed).  With that in mind, I got my heart set on a good $5.99 taco special with all the toppings,  AND extra guacamole, because it's ok to treat yourself even when on a budget. 

So I drive to go get him and before he can even get in my car good, baby says "I got a taste for Red Lobster". Me: 🤦🏾‍♀️😒👀👀😩👀🤦🏾‍♀️. 

First off, inflation has caused Red lobster to charge phone bill payments for a lil piece of seafood, so immediately I'm looking crazy.  In  addition, my nephew has never been one of those salad eating type of guys, so now I'm super nervous. I pull out my phone and immediately start searching for coupons or some sort of rewards program!!! lol

 Then, to add icing on this expensive ass cake, my dear nephew says " ohhh this lobster feast meal looks good!! LOBSTER FEAST!!! Oh Lawd 😱😫. Now for anyone who doesn't know what the Ultimate Feast is, it's a $30+ dish that consists of lobster, shrimp, and a platter full of different overpriced previously  frozen dishes.  In my mind I wanted to respond like Iyanla and scream "NOT ON MY WATCH", but instead I calmly replied, "Yeah nah!! You get that and you forfeit a going away present bruh!! 😂😂😂". 

Long story short, he settled on something more affordable and we both bonded over Red Lobster cheddar bay biscuits. 

Moral of this story, I've never paid for a date,  but now I can understand how SOME men or women feel when paying for dates.  Let's keep it real, unless you make a nice salary and have no major bills or responsibilities, you're not aiming to consistently spend HUGE amounts of money on another adults dinner, especially if you don't know the person that well.  I do understand wanting to impress but sometimes you have to stay within your own financial lane, and there is NOTHING wrong with that.  

On the other side of the coin, I would also advise any guy or girl that has a set budget,  to stick to the rivers and the Taco Tuesday's that you're used to.  I will never judge a date for printing a cute Groupon or recommending a restaurant that has two $$ signs on yelp.  At the end of the day, it's not about how expensive the dinner, it's about how much we like each other.  

What are your thoughts about paying for dates?  Are you more traditional and expect the other person to pay? Do you believe in going halfies? Do you get offended by coupons? Let's discuss.